Mother's Day Feelings
Updated: Sep 22, 2019
Written by Andy.
Hi everyone, First of all Happy Mother’s Day! Charly is doing well. She’s been home from her most recent hospital visit for a little over a week and seems to be back to normal. Liz and I are constantly learning new approaches to keeping her healthy and trying our best to stay on top this pneumonia cycle that we find ourselves in. However, today I just wanted to give a short update on Charly and focus on the real star of mother’s day.
“As these holidays come and go, we find that our experience is very different than we imagined. Mother’s Day can be especially tough when most of the time I’m sure Liz barely feels like a mother, but rather a 24/7 nurse who works two jobs, doesn’t sleep and never gets a break. We are doing our best to try and celebrate, but it’s difficult not to feel as though this is just another reminder of how awfully hard this has all been.”
Those of you who know me probably know I’m not much for holidays. I always forget them, not because I don’t care, I guess I think it’s that I’m one of those guys who falls into the “we should celebrate, mothers, fathers, spouses and birthdays every day, not when someone tells us to.” cliché. I’m especially terrible with birthdays, in fact I tend to even forget my own even though it falls on the 4th of July.
Sometimes I ask myself why I’m like this. Do I get too distracted or caught up my own life to remember any of these days? When I put it down on paper I guess it sounds pretty selfish, but lately with everything going on I barely remember eat a normal meal let alone remember what holiday is coming up. Although this is something I struggle with I guess I subconsciously try and make up for it with my constant desire to help and provide for others. For example, there is nothing in the world that gives me more satisfaction than spending a Saturday morning feeding a warm breakfast to the homeless, repairing something for someone who can’t afford to get it fixed or working with the amazing youth group at St. Francis Xavier. Celebrating these moments and experiences not because it’s the designated “day”, but because it’s something that we shouldn’t need a reminder to do.
What I'm Really Trying To Say
Ok... before I get too off track, none of that even comes close to what it feels when every day I get to provide for my family especially my beautiful wife Liz and my amazing little fighter “Charly Barley”.
As these holidays come and go, we find that our experience is very different than we imagined. Mother’s Day can be especially tough when most of the time I’m sure Liz barely feels like a mother, but rather a 24/7 nurse who works two jobs, doesn’t sleep and never gets a break. We are doing our best to try and celebrate, but it’s difficult not to feel as though this is just another reminder of how awfully hard this has all been.
Liz constantly asks me how I seem to be so strong through all of this. Well as tough as this whole experience has been the truth is I find that I draw my strength from her. Watching her taking care of Charly brings me more joy than I could ever describe. It’s so natural for her and watching her gives me a true understanding of “motherly instinct”. She knows exactly when something is wrong and knows exactly what to do. She juggles working a full-time job and taking care of our beautiful baby with unmatched poise.
One of the things that always attracted me to Liz is her “strong empowered women” mentality. Liz’s doesn’t take crap from anyone (including me) and she has always been an advocate for women who are in tough situations. Now given our current situation she really is walking the walk. I don’t make too many appearance’s on here, mostly because Liz does such an incredible job keeping everyone updated. Her posts are not only inspiring to me, but I can’t even begin to tell you how many women who are going through something similar have reached out to her and gained strength on their own journey through Liz’s grace and empowering words as she shares our experience with the world.
So, on this day and every other day for that matter, I want to take a moment to truly celebrate and thank my amazing wife for everything that she does. For all her hard work and really for just waking up in the morning and a being willing to tackle this life with me. I want you to know I will always have your back and on the days that you have nothing to give I will carry you through. As our journey continues to get tougher, just know that we are getting stronger. As long as we have each other we can do anything. There’s no one else I’d rather have on my team.
Happy Mother’s Day Mama bear.
Love, Charly Barley, Hanker and Papa bear